Yes to Magic Cave Time! Boundaries are nourishing because they give you space to breathe and do what you need to take care of you so the idea of having a Magic Cave to shelter in while you feel the raw, icky feeling of a layer of skin regrowing after being torn off from having actually said no to someone is just gorgeous x
I LOVE that idea of regrowth, that’s gorgeous! It reminds me of something beautiful that Laura McKowen wrote about treating her new sobriety like a pregnancy, something vulnerable and new that needed to develop and be protected. X
I think it’s in her book We Are The Luckiest - it’s BEAUTIFUL, I think that even if you’re not reading for the quit lit content, her honesty and emotional courage will really resonate! She’s on here too. X
Wonderful! I think I love you Daisy (or I just love saying daisy, even in just my head). I always feel like I need permission to take a time out. On rare occasions I declare it but the overwhelming guilt of opting out of it makes it hard to savor the moments I invest in it. It’s a hundred times harder to say “no” so I have to practice but when that moment presents itself I feel like a deer in headlights and frequently fail. The No becomes a soft yes and I retreat, defeated.
Oh love! Thank you for this, I hear you, and it takes practice. It’s hard! That deer in the headlights feeling is so overwhelming. I hope you know that every time you uphold a boundary, and hold space for yourself, I’m somewhere thinking ‘YES MAUREEN! I want this for you! I’m so inspired by your boundary bravery!’ X
We have a half empty nest now so I think I’m gonna section a spot for making my own magic cave. Still have one at home who’s grown but has Aspergers and severe ADHD so it may be a long time before she goes solo. No problem, God bless her. She’s talented in drawing and writing but we try not to push. She needs some confidence to put her stuff out there.
Anyway, I’m yammering but thank you for empathetic and supportive response.
Definitely getting myself a Magic Cave 🥰. Boundaries are important. When we don’t have any or only weak ones, people will take advantage, often without meaning any disrespect. After all we did leave the gate open for them to wander in. Then when we start to set them, people get upset because suddenly you’ve changed. Hold your ground though and it will be worthwhile in the end. I know I have been there! Much love ❤️
If I don’t say no, no one will say no to me! How incisive!!! 🔥
For me - this has made me realise - I think it’s connected to my difficulty in asking for help, so I always assume that if other people are asking me for something it must be really important
Yes to Magic Cave Time! Boundaries are nourishing because they give you space to breathe and do what you need to take care of you so the idea of having a Magic Cave to shelter in while you feel the raw, icky feeling of a layer of skin regrowing after being torn off from having actually said no to someone is just gorgeous x
I LOVE that idea of regrowth, that’s gorgeous! It reminds me of something beautiful that Laura McKowen wrote about treating her new sobriety like a pregnancy, something vulnerable and new that needed to develop and be protected. X
Oh I need to find that piece to read, thank you! x
I think it’s in her book We Are The Luckiest - it’s BEAUTIFUL, I think that even if you’re not reading for the quit lit content, her honesty and emotional courage will really resonate! She’s on here too. X
Fab, thank you x
I’ve just twigged you’re Daisy Buchanan of Careering that I just read 🤦♀️😂
Get out of town! I’m so happy to hear it! Thank you so much for reading, I really hope you liked it! X
I did! In the new year I'm creating a little free library corner in my village and I'm saving your book for it x
Wonderful! I think I love you Daisy (or I just love saying daisy, even in just my head). I always feel like I need permission to take a time out. On rare occasions I declare it but the overwhelming guilt of opting out of it makes it hard to savor the moments I invest in it. It’s a hundred times harder to say “no” so I have to practice but when that moment presents itself I feel like a deer in headlights and frequently fail. The No becomes a soft yes and I retreat, defeated.
But no more.
Happy holidays.
Oh love! Thank you for this, I hear you, and it takes practice. It’s hard! That deer in the headlights feeling is so overwhelming. I hope you know that every time you uphold a boundary, and hold space for yourself, I’m somewhere thinking ‘YES MAUREEN! I want this for you! I’m so inspired by your boundary bravery!’ X
We have a half empty nest now so I think I’m gonna section a spot for making my own magic cave. Still have one at home who’s grown but has Aspergers and severe ADHD so it may be a long time before she goes solo. No problem, God bless her. She’s talented in drawing and writing but we try not to push. She needs some confidence to put her stuff out there.
Anyway, I’m yammering but thank you for empathetic and supportive response.
Oh that Magic Cave.... thank you for giving a name to it!
Definitely getting myself a Magic Cave 🥰. Boundaries are important. When we don’t have any or only weak ones, people will take advantage, often without meaning any disrespect. After all we did leave the gate open for them to wander in. Then when we start to set them, people get upset because suddenly you’ve changed. Hold your ground though and it will be worthwhile in the end. I know I have been there! Much love ❤️
Magic Cave Time sounds marvelous! Also I didn’t know that Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria exists and I’m like, what?! It me... 🫥
Oh, dude, I know that ‘Ohhhhhhhhh! Is that what I’ve got?!’ feeling WELL - I hope the concept is a helpful and useful one! X
I'm planning Magic Cave Time for the holidays this year! Thanks for this essential new vocab!
I love the magic cave time!
Boner-killing! 😂😂😂
I cannot understand why the Booker committee continues to ignore my elegant prose…
If I don’t say no, no one will say no to me! How incisive!!! 🔥
For me - this has made me realise - I think it’s connected to my difficulty in asking for help, so I always assume that if other people are asking me for something it must be really important